Posted on October 19, 2019 by Origins
When you aren’t educated on healthy boundaries, it is easy to mistake enmeshment for intimacy. For people living with loved ones who have the disease of addiction, this lack of clarity can prove disastrous. Here, we’ll look at the difference between healthy closeness in relationships and dysfunctional closeness.
Healthy relationships with family members, friends, and romantic partners are necessary a necessary and wonderful part of life. In a healthy and close relationship, all parties maintain their identity and sense of self outside of the relationship. Independence and intimacy are equally important. Other staples of a healthy relationship include: supporting one another’s growth and happiness, sharing and respecting each other’s values and goals, healthy communication and listening, and feeling emotionally and physically safe. In a healthy relationship, both parties maintain their own goals while working towards shared goals as a unit. There’s an overall sense of encouragement, care, and honesty, rather than a lack of emotional boundaries, extreme neediness, or desperation.
A close relationship involves both parties maintaining levels of independence while feeling intimately connected to one another. While two enmeshed people are often very close, there are stark differences between a close relationship and an enmeshed one. Signs of enmeshment include:
Signs of codependence vary and can include unstable relationships that are often emotionally destructive or abusive. Codependent relationships are often characterized by being one-sided, wherein one person in the relationship relies on the other to fulfill all of their emotional needs. Codependency was originally used to describe the partners of people struggling with addiction. However, it’s now a widely recognized issue and there are many treatment options available. If you are in an enmeshed or codependent relationship, especially with someone struggling with addiction, the time to act is now.
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